It’s been five and a half months since I last posted. Sorry. My bad. Things have just been in a whirl. Here are the updates:
I Think People Don’t Like Me
No, not really because I’m amazing. But I’ve applied at over 100 places in the last 5 months and I STILL don’t have a full time job. I still have my part time one (which i am SOOOOO fricken grateful for) but no full time job yet. I’ve broadened my area and I apply to just about anything that says full time but still, I’m still looking. I know that the right job is out there, it’s just a matter of finding it. I’ve rewritten my resume. I’ve created an engaging cover letter for each of the jobs specifically. Nothing.
I applied at McDonald’s and they told me that I had too much experience. That they were looking for followers, not leaders, and so that made me something they weren’t looking for. That’s right. I gotta say, I’m working hard – very hard – at staying positive. But I am positive. And I’m going to keep plugging away.
Home Sweet … Car?
My brother, who is amazing at his job, has finally been promoted to regional director with his company. YAY! That’s so amazing for him because he deserves all the great things that are coming to him! He gets all these perks and bonus, and of course an increase. It’s a position that he’s been waiting for and working for, for the last 12 years. One thing: It’s in Colorado. They leave first week of June. So, that means I’m homeless starting June 6th.
I’m a bit nervous, as you can imagine, but at least I have my car. It’s not big but It’s going to be great. And then once i get a job, I’ll be able to get a place of my own.
That’s one of my things though too. I’m looking to move to Big Bear, CA because the rent is so much cheaper. I found a 3 bedroom cabin for $900. And that’s just for transition. That means that I can take a job that pays $16ish per hour and still have my own place.
If I stay in the San Gabriel Valley, a nice 1 to 2 bedroom apartment is $1600. Meaning I would have to make between $22 to $25 to afford it. Guess where I’m looking to move? You guessed it: Big Bear.
For those of you who aren’t familiar with Big Bear, it’s a mountain resort like town. It’s small, has 2 ski resorts, a beautiful lake, and the community is friendly and so nice. And for those of you who aren’t familiar with the San Gabriel Valley, some of it can be dangerous, the community feeling isn’t inclusive, and I have concerns about my kids growing up there.
So, I’m moving to Big Bear. I got to tell you though, jobs are pretty scarce up there. I’m an office worker and I’m a wedding planner. Most of the stuff that’s up there is resort related and seasonal. I found a couple places that are full time but it’s been so fricken hard to get a damn interview!
Anyway, getting back to the move, so it looks like I’ll be staying in my car for a couple weeks until i get a job and can move into my own place. I haven’t told my mom. I haven’t told my BFF sister. I haven’t even told my brother. I am so embarrassed. So, I’m going on like I have a place to go. For the next two weeks, I’m going to be outfitting my car with things to help it be a little easier. There are free places in Big Bear to ‘car camp’ while i look for a job. I’m going to be posting on here too the process and how shit works out. I got a tiny tiny car. It’s going to be interesting.
Also, I have a job fair I’m going to in Big Bear that I’m going to next week that, I’m PRAYING, does onsite hiring. That’s the next thing …
So, There’s This Job …
Mid April I applied for a job in Big Bear at an office. I got a phone interview and I thought it went well. On a Thursday, the interviewer said the manager was going to call Friday, maybe Monday. I thought I would be a little proactive and when I didn’t hear anything Friday, I sent the manager there an email introduction to me Sunday night.
That next week I left a message for the interviewer guy. no reply. I don’t give up that easily.
I went to Big Bear last week and sent an email to the manager again saying that i was there and available if he had the moment to speak with me. No reply.
I know what you’re thinking: Take a fucking hint, stalker.
Nope. That’s not my style.
So, this same company is having a job fair for office, full time positions in their company. Guess who signed up …. Come on. Guess.
I have been consulting also at a resort in Big Bear who want to modify their facility to do events. If they hire me, that would be perfect. Seasonal weddings but i would be running their program. If I can make enough to sustain me through the off season, that would be ideal. Or if they put me on hourly and to manage their special events, not just the wedding stuff. We’re in talks now. THAT’S the one I want. I WANT IT. It’s such a great opportunity and it has so much potential.
I’m out of time though on trying to find the perfect career. I am just looking for something that I can afford a place to live for me and my kids. That’s all. And I can’t do that down the hill.
Yeah, What About the Kids?!
Yes, i have three beautiful kids who are amazing. 11,10, and 5. I know. Living in a car with three kids, and it’s an ideal things. Well, the kids will be with their dad for most of the summer – they have a bunch of camping trips that they have planned. So, that will be fine. And I’m even considering taking the cat with me so I don’t get too lonely while I’m looking.
My brother is the only family I have left in this state. Once he leaves, then I am all alone. Me and my kids. Go on. Ask about their dad. Let me tell you about their dad…
I Get NOTHING from their Dad
I told him, “I’m going to need to look into getting assistance because things are just too hard. I need help.” Oh, you’re going to file for child support?? Of course you are!” It was a nightmare. I told him that i have NEVER asked him for ANYTHING. I told him i need to have a place to live for me and the kids. He was going on like I haven’t looked for a job anywhere. “What about McDonalds?” Let me tell you about McDonald’s homey…. Here’s the deal. If I stay in the area where he lives, I have to make $22 an hour to get a maybe 2 bedroom apartment. I have three kids. Working for less isn’t going to let me get qualified to rent anything unless I’m making $22.
In Big Bear, I can take a less paying job like $16 and still qualify for a place to live. And not like a studio – an actual home with bedrooms, washer and dryer, living room. No shared walls with other families. A Fricken Home.
That’s All Folks
I think you’re all caught up on the major stuff. I’ll keep you posted. Just trying to stay above water right now but I’ll be logging in more often. Take are everyone!
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